"Since we did the course, we are doing so much better now than before. We still have a long way to go but even though everyone is constantly growing, so constantly changing, we are more connected together." - Jameela
We all want kids who look back and say, I was blessed to have parents like that!
Every mother wants to raise children who are happy, fun to be around and those who are ‘easy’. But how do you go about it?
Are children like that by birth or do parents really have something to do with it?
Let's face it, there is nothing more frustrating than wanting to raise good kids only to feel like you're always nagging and yelling and never actually.... parenting .
And there is nothing more disheartening than working so hard through the day only to know nothing really worked.
You know that you should be gentle and patient with your children.
Screen time addiction, homework battles, lack of motivation, irresponsible and no help with housework! Talking back, anger issues, power control... a lot of frustrations.
Raising our children in these modern times is hard. What worked with us will not work with these new age kids.
Being stern and strict, yelling, time-outs, cajoling and distracting... that's not parenting.
You know your children deserve a happy childhood full of love, empathy, encouragement and confidence to be who they are.
But so do you. It is hard enough that we have to do everything that we have people judging how we raise our kids.
As mothers, we know it is our responsibility to ensure that our children are ready for the world. They go out there as little ambassadors of our family, our culture and our values.
You wonder if raising children according to Islam is still possible in this modern times. How to have a home where your children are your team - your biggest supporters?
Is this is possible?
Yes, it is!
ABOUT JEDDAH MOM
Hey, Welcome, Ahlan... Assalamualikum!
I am Ayesha I. Siddiqua - an educator, business owner and a work-from-home, mother of three children - 9, 10 and 15 years old.
Years ago, when my children were babies, I learnt that families aren't perfect from the start. A mother and father have to join hands and hold on to each other stronger, if they want to raise confident creative kids.
As a mother and a gentle parenting advocate, I believe in treating children with utmost respect and love. You cannot spoil a child with positive attention and gentle manners.
I believe raising children is not only about good parenting but also enriching their life with the right experiences.
My goal is to give you the tools to help you raise self-sufficient and happy kids who have happier parents.
You need to know what you want first!
A home is not build by one parent. You know this very well. You need your spouse to be on the same page as you.
But you want to be a gentle parent, while your spouse believes in growing children for the real world. Both your goals are same, but the approach is different.
He blames you to be too permissive. You blame him to be too strict!
How will your children learn if you two don't agree with each other?
Have you and your husband ever discussed how you want to raise your family? Or what expectations you have from each other? What does an ideal family culture look for you? That discussion is really tough, isn't it?
A husband and wife need to hold hands and work on life's problems together.
The one question that everyone asks is: How do you raise children together as a couple?
Then there is the problem of raising Muslim children in a modern world. What exactly is the right way to parent according to Islam?
Is Islam too strict? Does Islam not teach gentleness… ? Where can I learn to be a gentle, positive parent and still be true to the Islamic teachings..?