Wondering how to manage anxiety in children? I have a book recommendation that teaches kids to manage anxiety in an Islamic way.
I recently received a book that teaches children how through remembrance of Allah they can overcome their anxiety and feel reassured and calm. Yes, a book that can teach your children how to use positive self talk and reciting Holy Quran to beat stress and overwhelm. Let’s talk more about it…
Our children are under stress and sometimes we don’t notice.
Have you ever looked at your little one and wondered if something is bothering them? Or may be what they are worrying about?
Oh, for sure our children worry! Our children worry about everything their parents worry about and then more. Growing up is hard. When you are a little one in a big BIG world, there are so many things that happen for the first time.
As a young mom, when I had my first child, I would record his “milestones”, but as he grew older, I stopped. I stopped not only recording, but unintentionally, even forgot to notice things that he may be experiencing for the first time.
Like… the first time he spoke out in front of his class; or his first ride on the bus; or the time my little girl took part in a competition; or the first time she got her hair cut; and the first time they took a shower by themselves and were afraid of the sound of the water falling and mommy not around!
Our children have a BIG imagination. These simple things cause them anxiety. What is that shadow on the door at night? ‘What if something crawls into my bed and I don’t know?’ What if the Big Wheel at the park rolls off and comes at me?!
I am not kidding you, my children have told me some terrific horror imagination-stories, that I had to try so hard to not laugh at!
All these things to say: our children worry and they worry big. Sometimes, worrying becomes so much that, it starts to affect their self esteem too.
How to teach children to cope with anxiety the Islamic way.
We are a family who love reading the Quraan together. I believe in gently encouraging children to naturally form an attachment to the Holy Book.
In the Quran, God says:
“Those who believe, and whose hearts find satisfaction in the remembrance of Allah: for without doubt in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find satisfaction.Ayah 27, Surah Ar Ra’d, The Holy Quran
In the Remembrance of Allah do hearts find satisfaction.
Without doubt, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find satisfaction. We adults, who have been reading the Quran for long time know this, but how to teach this to little children?
It is easy to say to a child that they should remember God in difficult times, but how do you help them create this habit?
I found Shereeza Boodhoo’s book – Talaal and the Whispering Worrier to be quite beneficial in this regard.
Talaal and the Whispering Worrier- Review
Talaal and the Whispering Worrier, written by Shereeza Boodhoo and illustrated by Khalif Koloseo, is a book about a little a boy Talaal.
Talaal’s teacher asked him to share his view in class and he felt really weird. He didn’t even understand why he felt that way. Was he anxious, nervous, scared or shy?
Lucky for him, he has an elder sister who helps him learn what is going on. She teaches him how to remain calm by whispering “helpful thoughts” and reciting the Quran.
For years, I have struggled with teaching my children how to react when they are nervous. I am sure you can relate! It is hard. But SubhanAllah, this book made it so easy for me to teach my little one.
Children experience anxiety but have a hard time talking about it
Last month, I was very sick. My children were very worried to see their mother on bed rest, unable to cook or play with them.
Even Dad had to take time off from office to continue working from home. We all know how it is when mom falls sick… I did my best to be as cheerful as possible, but our children know when things are wrong.
I made sure their routines were not hindered and that life was as normal as it could be. But they could sense the emergency in the home. Grandparents in and out, aunts and uncles chipping in to help… I started to notice the change in my children’s behavior.
The eldest was looking like he was coping. He is a teen, so I can somehow trust him to come to me for help but I could clearly see he was anxious because he spent way too much time online. It was his way of avoiding worrying.
The youngest – 7 years old, was too quiet. She was the one I was worried about. This little one still doesn’t know what to do when something is bothering her and she has no words to express it.
One night, after I came home from the hospital, I went in to check on everyone. I noticed the 7 year old asleep with a book by her side. It was Talaal and the Whispering Worrier.
I had heard her humming the Quran to herself many times through the week, but as it is normal in a household with children doing Hifz, it hadn’t occurred to me that she may have been remembering God to cope.
We received this book a few months ago and since then, my children had fallen in love with it. It has been read over and over and carried from room to room.
It taught my little girl that everyone worries but there is a way to come out of that worrying, and that is by remembering Allah.
Talaal and the Whispering Worrier is a book about helping your anxious and shy child cope with their worrying. It shows children what they can do when they are anxious, stressed and unable to cope. The book also has notes at the end that help parents with tips on how to recognize anxiety and help children manage their fears.
Shereeza Boodhoo has a degree in Psychology and Masters in Social Work. She has years of experience in therapy and counseling. Her specialized work is in helping children manage anxiety and self esteem issues.
This book is research based and uses three therapeutic techniques that clinical psychologists use in teaching their clients to manage stress. She shares her tips at the back of the book with conversation starters for parents to help their children.
Talaal and the Whispering Worrier is a award winning book that I highly recommend for your home. Sometimes, it is hard for us parents to be constantly around our children teaching them. Many times, our children don’t know who to initiate conversations about what may be worrying them. At such occasions, I have seen that books can be very useful tools that help them and us.
Where to buy Talaal and the Whispering Worrier?
This book is available on the author’s website TalaalandtheWhisperingWorrier.Com and that’s where I recommend you get it.
P.S: While purchasing the book, mention me in the notes section to receive a fun sticker!
This book is also available on Amazon.
Now, over to you: Tell me how do you help your children cope with anxiety? What do you do when they are stressed.