Inside: My stay at home mom schedule that helps me get everything done. How I find time to do the chores, connect with my children through quality time and still manage to get my stuff done. I follow this schedule all through year – no matter if my children are at school or at home for the holidays.
Schools closed last week. We are all confined at home with no school. There is talk that the city will be on lock down too. It is because of the CoVid-19 Virus scare. Parents everywhere are collecting educational activities for their children, planning playtime and asking how they can keep sane at home with their husband and children at home 24/7.
If it wasn’t enough that we struggled to get stuff done when they were at school, how will we manage now with everyone at home?
We have been home one week now and my routine hasn’t changed. I am not going to say I am unaffected but truth be told, I am one of those rare people who LOVES summer and spending time at home with kids. In fact, I find myself more productive when my children are at home.
How? I’d like to share a little secret first, before I tell you my daily Stay at Home Mom routine.
My family is my little team.
It took me years to master this and I confess… I wasn’t always this way!
I’ve had four children in six years. There was a time when I got nothing done. I was overwhelmed with housework and juggling little babies and toddlers and very unsatisfied with the way my home-life was run.
I always complained and crib that my husband’s life was easier, because I was forever sick or in pain, pregnant or postpartum, trying to make ends meet. There was a time when I was angry and jealous of my husband. I hated it when he went to the gym or hung out with his friends.
‘How dare he enjoy himself while I struggled!’
Then I learnt how husbands and wives work in different ways to support their family. I understood that being a family meant that we all brought a different ‘something’ to the table.
My children were little but they were very much part of my team. I saw that they were quite capable of helping me – if not physically, then at least, at cheering me on as I went about my day!
My whole world changed when I changed my perspective of how I saw a Stay at Home Mom’s lifestyle.
I’d like to share with you my routine. I use it all through the year. It doesn’t change much when the kids are at home from school.
But first, the first thing that I want you to take away from this article is this:
You don’t have to entertain your children all day.
Yes, you may need to guide them through the day. Educate them of course; but please don’t think that your responsibility is to fill ALL their time with ‘something’.
No. Yes, they need your guidance to a certain age but when they get a little older, they will easily adapt to your routine. Your children are watching you and learning. They see what adults do all day in the REAL world.
To be precise, your children are learning about life by watching you. They are seeing how their mother lives, what she does all day; how she treats others, how she treats herself, does she love herself… they are watching you and learning how to treat their future wife or husband.
Can you see how scary it is to throw away all your comfort and common sense to just make life ‘good’ for your child?
Of course you should give them love, attention and quality time. It is not very hard to do that by being just yourself. This is totally possible.
A lesson I learnt from my own mother.
My mother loves to sew and bake. I grew up wearing the best clothes and eating the most delicious cakes and all because, my mother enjoyed doing her hobbies!
I am the eldest among five siblings. When I think about my mother, I remember her in a nice dress, long plaited hair, smelling so nice, with a book or embroidery hoop in hand. She had an extensive library of craft and recipe books. She enjoyed reading about Psychology and religion. She was a great hostess and loved throwing parties. People loved talking to her and coming over to our home.
That’s how I want my children to remember me. I am sure this is how you want your family to remember you too.
How well do your children know you?
If someone asked your children what your hobbies are, can they answer correctly?
According to a research, children of working mothers were found to be comparatively more happier than children of mothers who stay at home. Children of working mothers go on to hold supervisory responsibilities and be more successful, they said. The sons spend an average of 50 minutes more time with their families than those raised by a stay at home mother.
They found that the reason for this is because stay at home mothers suffer from guilt, resentment, self doubt and approval from others. Of course, it is understood that the home environment influences the children. Really sad… but I can see this to be true. Don’t you think so?
Let’s change that.
A Stay At Home Mom Routine that involves the children
I’d like to share a sample daily Stay at Home Mom Schedule with you today. This is a routine that I follow everyday. I have been following this since the time I had two preschoolers and an elementary school child.
When I blog, I follow this 2 Hr a Day Work at Home Mom Routine that easily slides into this SAHM routine.
This schedule that I use is based on some daily habits that I have created for myself. It helps me do things automatically one after the other now.
Do I get everything done with this schedule? Well, most days. I don’t always get ALL of it done but most of it is just a habit now… I do what I can and not worry about what I couldn’t. 🙂
Please remember this routine, is an example of how I do things at MY season of life. You may need to tweak it to your liking. I hope it helps you design your own.
I get up at 4.45am during School days and 6am when there is no school. Some weekends, I’ll sleep in. No matter when I get up, I just follow this step by step.
Kids get up at 5.15am during school days as bus comes at 6am. During the holidays they get up between 6-8am.
Breakfast Lunch and Dinner:
Breakfast is at 8.30-9am during holidays. Lunch is always at 2-2.30pm. Dinner is at 7.30pm.
My children sleep between 8-9pm. As toddlers and babies they slept at 7-7.30pm. Hubby and I sleep around 10-11ish pm.
Morning Routine with Kids
My morning routine when children are at home is much more relaxed than when they are at school. During school days, I’ll be frantically running about getting the lunch ready or making sure everyone is on time, even though I may have done my 10 minute routine the night before.
During holidays, I get up calm and energized.
Wake Up: I always pray as soon as I get up. That takes a about 15-20 minutes for me. Then, if my husband is up, I will open the windows and make the bed. If he is still sleeping, I’ll just move the curtains and the window as I leave the room.
Freshen up: Before heading to the bathroom, I will go to my children’s room, turn off their AC, open a window and leave. (My kids are 6, 7 and 12 years old right now.)
Start the Laundry: After freshening up, as I leave the bathroom, I will start the laundry.
Kitchen time: While the washer is running, I go to the kitchen, put away the dry dishes from the washing the night before and then I will just brush the counters and sweep the kitchen before starting breakfast.
By the time my breakfast is done, almost everyone is up. The kids will come and give me a hug and kiss. They will get dressed, make their beds following their own routine.
Breakfast and tea: They help set the breakfast table and then we all have breakfast. After breakfast, kids put away the dishes while I make tea for Hubby and myself while doing the dishes and setting the lunch items out.
Think about the day: After breakfast, I take 30 minutes to think about my day. The kids have this as part of their routine too. They can read a book, be interested in a puzzle or just chitchat while mom is busy.
Usually this is the time when I check my mail and messages. I will quickly check my calendar for things – today and tomorrow, and also update things that I hadn’t added before.
Home Blessing: After 30 minutes, hubby may have left for work or may be reading the paper. The kids and I do Home blessing.
Home Blessing is the word that we use for tidying our home. It includes putting things away, dusting and sweeping. We have a simple to do list that we work on. Basically, we want to clean in 20 minutes or less so that we have a clean house to start with.
Self care: After that time, I will go in to take a shower or if someone else wants to take one. Kids have worksheets and workbooks to do at this time.
Work time: It is almost 9.30am when we start working. The rule is that they work for 45 minutes with a 10 minute break in between for a juice or snacks. This is the same routine that has evolved from my toddler and baby routines.
When they are done they can have free play time.
While the kids are working, I am working in my office on blog posts. Sometimes, we go out in the morning at this time.
Kitchen time: Our afternoon routine starts at noon. I start cooking, the kids start dusting and vacuuming, This is also the time when the laundry is to be line dried. The kids will be vacuuming and helping me do our ’10 minute declutter something’ routine. It takes me about 1-2 hours in the kitchen so kids are just in and out around me.
Relates: See how I save time in the kitchen.
When I had toddlers, our TV was in the living room hall. I’d sometimes turn it on for them to watch at this time. They’d be munching on fruit or vegetable sticks if they got restless. This habit has followed on now. If they are done with their chores, I let them watch an hour of TV or screen time while I am in the kitchen.
Lunch: Lunch is at 2-2.30 pm. Hubby comes for lunch. At school time, this is when children arrive. They will quickly wash up, change dresses and come for lunch.
Quiet time: After lunch from 2.30pm, we have a quiet time till 3.30pm. They can read a book, play quietly in the bed or nap. That’s what I do too. I will sometimes read to them at this hour but mostly we are all having some time to ourselves.
Study hour: At 3.30 pm we do some religious studies, prayer and learning. During school days they do homework too and then come for religion.
Art, Craft or Homework: After an hour, the kids love to draw and make… they will use their inventions and crafts when they go outside to play.
The kids bedtime routine is 8.30pm, so after sunset, they come home and have dinner (that I may have been making… ) they have dinner duties.
7.30pm: We will all eat and then they start their bedtime routine of putting the clothes away (from the laundry), getting their beds ready and then book time.
I will read to them at this time.
Then they have to stay in their room and in their bed. If they get loud or out of bed, they know mom will turn the lights off. They will be asleep soon.
After kids are in bed: Hubby and I will be online on Social media… I may be planning my next day routine or working on my hobbies. Sometimes, I listen to my courses or audiobooks while I do the dishes or work in the kitchen. Mostly, I like to just sit on my bed and crochet or tat at this time.
If hubby is free, we will chitchat or sit quietly scrolling on our phones forwarding each other funny memes or generally, talking about our day…
Before bedtime: When I go to the bathroom, I will swish it, wipe the sinks and then come to my room pray and go to bed.
That’s my daily stay at home mom routine with children. I’d love to know how you like it. Will this work for you?