In this post, I talk about how I g to started on Routines.
Last Monday, I treated myself to three books. Baby Days by Barbara Rowley, Wonder Play (From the 92nd St.Y Parenting Center) by Fretta Reitzes and Beth Teitelman, with Lois Alter Mark and Gina Ford’s The Contented Toddler Years. The first two books are on games, crafts and creative activities for kids age birth-4 years. When things start getting out of hand, what else is a girl to do but turn to self help books?!
What are any mum’s biggest dilemmas?
Once you have a baby, you really don’t know what to do with him/her.
Really. You feed her, change her, play with her in any way you can and you rock her/feed her to sleep. How boring! Afterall, after a while that is exactly what it gets, boring. Both for mum and the kid. When the kid starts to crawl or take solids, the problems excalate! What do you feed him/her? And how much? How often? Why doesn’t he sleep through the night? why does he keep crying all day? There are so many things! My daughter didn’t sleep through the nights and most mornings are chaos because she would cry till her afternoon nap and not let me do anything…making lunch was torture! I have been searching for help on her habits online, from friends and family and any sort of advice I could find, anywhere… then my luck shone on me when I bought Gina Ford’s The Contented Toddler Years. The book is, literally, a miracle. I finished it out in a night and started on Gina Ford’s advice the next morning… I am shocked! My daughter is so happy and content that I am marvelling at her! Today is day 8 and she hasn’t cried at all… infact she has been joking around and teasing me; laughing and playing all mornings. She is eating again and she plays by herself. I have time to myself enough to try new recipes and work on TAST… what more could I ask for? Even my son, who was bored out and irritable by afternoon is now really pleasant. He turned three this past month and wasn’t still potty trained. In one night, he was not only trained to be dry but also clean. I am not sure if it is just that he decided to stop being stubborn or if it is that it really pays to reward him with stars!
What is in the book that changed my kids so much, you ask? In a sentence, The Toddler Years deals with all aspects of a Toddler’s life. Routines(that can be adapted to preschoolers too), what to feed them, when to feed them, when they should sleep, when they should wake up and how much they should sleep, what they should do when they are awake and what their mum can do to keep them out of the way and the bet part, how to manage two kids or more(and their routines) at a time. There are other books like that, you say. True, and I have read many but the approach here is unlike any other. The examples of routines that are given are what makes it all work. I have been reading books on baby care and parenting, since even before I got pregnant with my first one but I must say, there is something about this book that really feels like ‘she knows exactly what I am going through!’ Her approach is because she has dealt with kids of all sorts. She is like Supernanny-Jo Frost(She is another one of my favourites!), with a little different touch to the subject. I LOVE the routines. They really, really work!
I have been writing this post two lines at a time for the past week. Before it gets long and boring, I’ll save the rest of my after thoughts for another day!:)